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“Wait, Is This A Night Out Together”
the podcast about queer dating there is a constant realized you always needed, managed by myself, Christina, and Drew Gregory!

This podcast was born away from Drew and I’s common passion for vocals memos and strong conversations about dating. We have been sending each other sound memos just for over a-year now, heading deeply on the situations received really loves about internet dating (people! enjoyable! flirting!) and also the circumstances I hate about internet dating (men and women! Fun! Flirting!). We were having a lot of enjoyment, careful, and informative discussions and honestly, it felt rude to rob the greater public of these!

Contemplate you as your friendly neighbor hood co-hosts, leading you through extremely certain queer dating conundrums because honestly, straight dating podcasts could never ever. Conundrums like: How do you flirt via IG stories? How do you take long, slow flirting to the next level? How much does it imply to think men and women are into you? We’ll speak to several of Autostraddle’s best writers, play some extremely certain games, report on all of our pop tradition crushes of-the-moment not to mention, attempt to respond to the endless concern your occasions:

Wait…is this a romantic date???

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Drew:

Hi, I’m Drew.

Christina:

And That I’m Christina. Referring to

Wait, So Is This a romantic date?

An Autostraddle podcast that’s aimed at issue, “hold off, is it a night out together?”

Drew:

I am therefore thrilled to learn.

Theme track plays

Christina:

Yeah. I do believe we’ve been on a journey to discover exactly what are times and what are maybe not dates, as friends, also as a people, I believe.

Drew:

Yeah. As a people. Meaning, the queers, the lesbians.

Christina:

Should we inform those queers and lesbians what the whole indealment is, like everything we’re to in this time?

Drew:

Like which we have been?

Christina:

Yeah.

Drew:

Yeah. I am able to get initial. I’m Drew Gregory. I am a filmmaker and an author for autostraddle.com, the web site. I actually do many movie and television criticism, and sex and internet dating authorship, and personal essays, and things that combine all of those circumstances. I am trans and I am a lesbian, and that I feel i will add a 3rd thing because everything is in threes. What else? Just what else?

Christina:

Situations do embark on threes. You have fantastic locks.

Drew:

Oh, thank you.

Christina:

You have got amazing locks, In my opinion that’s really important.

Drew:

Those are my identities. Trans. Lesbian. Great locks.

Christina:

Those tend to be the identities.

Drew:

Yeah.

Christina:

I usually mentioned that you happen to be a female of tresses knowledge. I’ve always mentioned that about you.

Drew:

Yeah. This really is important.

Christina:

Yeah. I will be Christina Tucker. I am also an author at Autostraddle, if you can believe it, whom writes about… oh, let us merely say whatever pops into their heads. Which is actually the feeling. Also a lesbian. I Am Dark. I’m not sure which otherwise i’m.

Drew:

You will also have fantastic locks.

Christina:

Oh yeah, no, after all, In my opinion this will be perhaps a podcast of hair knowledge. Possibly that ought to be the tagline, “a podcast of tresses knowledge.” I assume people are likely wanting to know how we reached this podcast particularly.

Drew:

Yes. And like every great thing in life — and also by that i am talking about, very, hardly any — it started as a highdea, as a thing that I sent you in a vocals memo, high. And returning beyond that, we started sending voice memos to one another at the start of the pandemic.

Drew, in a voice memo:

Okay. I’m just attending let you know like the feelings that I have, and then you can go from that point and answer myself, maybe not reply to me personally, whatever. I am exactly like, this is me personally getting immediate and obvious. Okay. I am someone who… i really like discussing dating. It really is one of my main subjects of dialogue. We have now mentioned my portion.

Christina, in a voice memo:

Thanks for claiming the part. Additionally, six mins and 54 mere seconds. In all honesty, rather impressive for you to get that out in that timeframe. We never really remember online dating. I do believe, possibly, an opposite feeling of both you and your want to contemplate online dating and mention dating and, like, be internet dating. I do believe those are my personal ideas. Well, i am delivering a Drew-level sound memo, a Drew-length sound memo now. I will deliver this.

Drew, in a voice memo:

Yeah. I’m sure you do not think about internet dating, not whenever myself, perhaps significantly less than anyone else I know?

Christina, in a voice memo:

I believe about matchmaking not as much as virtually anybody I also know. I’m not sure. We honestly do not know easily’ve fulfilled anyone who willn’t consider internet dating as far as I perform or in so far as I don’t, i suppose.

Drew:

We don’t actually know each other. We had been co-workers at Autostraddle, however for those that simply don’t know, Autostraddle is actually an online a workplace. It really is a lot more of a Slack situation than a, we-all arrive to like lesbian headquarters as well as briefcases. That is not truly the feeling. We didn’t truly know one another. And then, the beginning of pandemic, there was some DM sliding and some relationship building and a few vocals memoing. And then we would always joke it was like we’d a podcast because we might deliver these long sound memos. Following while I had been stoned, I became similar, “We in fact should.” And right here the audience is.

Christina:

Yeah. I understand what you mean by high a few ideas not always getting a ideas, but i actually do have a rather obvious recollection of hearing you claim that being like, “Yeah, without a doubt we should have a podcast. We have been carrying out for each and every various other. Why don’t you receive other individuals into it?”

Drew:

Mm-hmm (affirmative). Yeah. Usually my large tactics are things like, “Oh my Jesus, there ought to be a TV tv show called

Get A Hold Of The Superstar Twin,

in which you grab a celebrity immediately after which they fulfill a person that — like an arbitrary person who provides their particular exact same birth information. That can, is regarded as my high ideas that i do believe could be great. It’s like…

Christina:

Yeah, firstly, TM, Drew Gregory, copyright laws.

Drew:

That is a free of charge one. Really don’t proper care.

Christina:

No, it isn’t. Drew, I’m getting you cash, I am about to become your money supervisor for that. Definitely not.

Drew:

I just want to see these items in this field. Basically, this really is a dating podcast, a queer matchmaking podcast. And one of the reasons exactly why it’s that topic, in the place of a variety of other items Christina and that I discuss, is really because I adore matchmaking and Christina doesn’t love online dating and that is an enjoyable little.

Christina:

Less of a fan.

Drew:

And conflict is really… that is where drama occurs. In my opinion Socrates said that.

Christina:

Definitely.

Drew:

So in retrospect that’s all of our subject. We’re going to cover all kinds of things.

Christina:

Yeah. We will speak about all of the most useful queer internet dating conundrums, dating via Instagram.

Drew, in audio clip from potential event:

Correct me easily’m wrong, but In my opinion Instagram is the better queer online dating app.

Shelli, in sound clip from potential event:

1000 percent. It is the finest.

Christina, in sound clip from future episode:

I’ve heard this from other queers.

Shelli, in sound clip from future event:

Definitely. It offers you virtually everything you need, except if someone’s personal. But even although you’re private, baby, we’ll know exactly about you, a means.

Drew, in audio video from potential occurrence:

We’re going to discuss the very best intercourse we’ve ever endured.

Dani, in sound clip from potential episode:

Right after which At long last questioned like, “No, did you run-over here to have sex? Are we going to make love?” And they had been like, “Yeah, that is what I wanted.” And it ended up being like, the cat and puppy were in room there was cat and dog locks almost everywhere. And I also was actually like, absolutely having an allergic impulse while we happened to be sex. The orgasm was actually, like, chef’s kiss. It absolutely was the right experience.

Drew, in sound video from potential episode:

Wow.

Christina, in audio video from potential episode:

I ask yourself whether or not it’s anything towards hives that really included. Like some ‘jenesequa’ to that climax encounter. It had been like, “Ooh, i am only a little itchy also.” I wonder how much cash that factors. We’re talking about how to breakup with people.

Ro, in sound clip from future episode:

It is like an extremely straight lifestyle thing, also.

Christina, in audio clip from potential event:

Yeah.

Ro, in sound video from potential event:

About if you ask me, personally i think like… My personal right pals are the ones that are more likely to state, “Well, shag see your face. That individual sucks,” basically finish a relationship with someone. Whereas, queer people in my entire life are those who are more prone to keep relationships with exes or perhaps see our exes in a holistic way.

Christina, in sound video from potential episode:

Whatever you could think about in a matchmaking podcast, and that I’m perhaps not planning lie for your requirements people, additionally a lot more. Significantly more than you can previously think of.

Drew, in audio clip from potential event:

If you are sexting via book, would it be like what you need all of them… have you been doing role-plays of a scenario, like “you’re pressing me personally immediately” or “I wish you were touching,” exactly what tight tend to be we in?

Kayla, in sound clip from potential episode:

Yeah, I found myself attending ask exactly the same concern, in fact, because that’s something that’s always interesting to me, particularly because we all have been article authors, in addition.

Christina, in sound clip from future episode:

I was planning say, a group of article authors fancy, “What tight are we operating?”

Kayla, in sound video from potential episode:

Standpoint.

Christina, in sound clip from future event:

It really is an in depth third, what exactly is going on here?

Kayla, in audio clip from potential event:

Like, purely next?

Drew:

Here’s finished . about queer men and women. Let me tell you.

Christina:

Okay. Pull up a chair. Welcome to the TED Talk. Let’s go off.

Drew:

There is numerous encounters as they are a lot more interesting. Simply whenever I look at the method in which directly men and women explore dating, it’s so boring. And I also think so usually, queer matchmaking talks are extensions from the main-stream dating discourse, but including things like “coming-out” and “very first time you’re with a blah, blah, blah.” It is like — there’s so much more nuance in books… Its so exciting. What a global that it is, queer sex and queer matchmaking.

Christina:

We have now taken just like the really classic form of dull framework of heterosexual relationship and extremely brought it into a new world, filled up with lengthy talks and processing the emotions. It is amazing work.

Drew:

Yeah. I’m truly thrilled and I hope you all tend to be excited, because our basic episode arrives a week from now then, there will be brand new symptoms every Wednesday.

Christina:

It has been one week until such time you’ll hear our very own podcast. Nailed it. Crushed it. Yeah. Every Wednesday, you will not merely get

To L and Straight Back

on Mondays, you’re going to get

Hold Off, Is It A Night Out Together?

on Wednesdays.

Drew:

And I co-host both, so if you hate me, i suppose you’re not playing Autostraddle podcasts. While you do like me, you are welcome.

Christina:

In addition, unless you like Drew, become adults, is exactly what i need to state.

Drew:

I am not for all of us, I am fine with this. I think it’s probably good to not for all.

Christina:

Yes. I think which is entirely reasonable. And possibly a subject we’re able to go over on a single of our potential periods. What goes on when you’re maybe not for everyone? I adored that We went like, “Ooh, why don’t we get this all inclusive.” What will happen whenever you, we, as folks. You mentioned, let us perform a complete episode in regards to, “Can you imagine I’m not for everyone?”

Drew:

Really, its Leo season and I’m a Leo rising and that I decided rendering it about me. 00:09:54].

Christina:

As am I. thanks quite definitely.

Drew:

The audience is double Leo risings about this podcast, that is certainly part of exactly why it’s going to be brilliant. You’ll be able to listen to united states anywhere you pay attention to the podcast. It will likely be a pretty regular podcast circumstance. Nothing elegant, no riddles would have to be solved to discover the episode, it will likely be immediately for you personally.

Christina:

Not really the manager people. There’s lots of solutions, would what you would.

Drew:

Mm-hmm (affirmative). Okay. Well, available all of us on Twitter and Instagram at @waitisthisadate. And email us at waitisthisadate@gmail.com. And you can discover myself on Twitter and Instagram and TikTok at @draw_gregory, my personal title in the present tight.

Christina:

We have considered your own social media marketing addresses often and that I haven’t ever, until this time, understood that it is “draw.” Wow.

Drew:

Yeah. Really that is the thing, Drew was actually used and I have no idea how… Oh, I happened to be online dating someone that… really this individual just who I dated, i did not get lots out-of that relationship, except I mentioned this concept and she believed it absolutely was so funny, like also amusing, honestly, like part of the issue, In my opinion maybe. And I also was encouraged to get it done, following it’s simply caught.

Christina:

Wow.

Drew:

But yeah. Sometimes individuals think I’m an aesthetic singer therefore know what, I love to be thought of this way, but I can’t, Really don’t really have drawing abilities.

Christina:

I shall say there’s nothing much more about brand name for Drew than getting similar, “Oh, that is your Twitter handle.” And also you being love, “really, it is a funny tale about internet dating.”

Drew:

Indeed, precisely.

Christina:

Perfect.

Drew:

Preciselywhat are your personal manages, and therefore are they linked to your own intimate life?

Christina:

Just, no. You might get myself at @c_gracet on twitter.com, the website. Of course, if you need to get a hold of myself on Instagram, you can do very, at @christina_gracet. And it is actually daring of us to know my Instagram handle.

Drew:

Wonderful work.

Christina:

Many thanks such.

Drew:

It certainly is a happiness to talk to you and i am very excited to plunge into all these interesting topics. And for our very own audience to make the journey to understand united states a little bit better and acquire to… i believe we can all, In my opinion we’re all attending discover about quest.

Christina:

I really hope thus. We signed up for understanding.

Drew:

Yeah.

Christina:

Like a school length of podcasts. That managed to make it sound like a total bummer. So sorry.

Drew:

I don’t know. I had some fantastic university classes.

Christina:

Demonstrably, I Did So too, but I don’t want to make anyone—

Drew:

Can you picture just how amazing it could be if you arrived towards university course and either people ended up being your own professor, or we coached a course with each other, that’d function as hottest thing ever. Men And Women was like…

Christina:

Hottest solution in town. Enrollment is actually off the information.

Drew:

Oh, we have to have an occurrence that is dedicated to hot teachers. That is not related.

Christina:

That is not perhaps not related. We’ll declare that.

Drew:

Sure, sure. I’m like there may be — you must make it a tiny bit wider, but who knows? You never know what will take the long run, and that is really interesting. While learn who’ll understand? You, listener, once you listen in every Wednesday.

Christina:

You listen in and you also crucially hit that old subscribe switch and go out around every Wednesday and have yourself, “Understanding a night out together?”

Drew:

Mm-hmm (affirmative). Yeah. That brings me personally to… I don’t know. I found myself only wondering… ended up being this a night out together?

Christina:

Drew, no. It is a podcast truck.

Drew:

Oh, sweet. Okay. Great. Okay. I do believe i am getting the hang from it therefore understand what’s fantastic, is the fact that because I inquired, today I know, now in direct interaction is actually what it’s exactly about.

Christina:

Asked and answered. The CT motto.

Drew:

The other that the majority of folks in our very own community could find out. And then wewill, ideally, this is really a service. This really is a reduced amount of a podcast plus of a political act.

Christina:

Wow. I happened to ben’t familiar with that, but I’m excited to understand that we’re having both a podcast and a political work. A couple of my personal favorite circumstances. Two of my personal favorite items to start out with P, podcasts and governmental functions.

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Christina, in a voice memo:

In my opinion my instinct is when i love people and I want them in my existence, i am aware the easiest way personally to ensure that they’re inside my life is to make them a buddy.

Drew, in a voice memo:

I’m just thus grateful we’ve become these friends. And in case regarding quarantine, that is what took place, we made this phenomenal brand new friend, just who I like dearly and I also’m simply thrilled to talk to you usually, like exactly what a gift.

Christina, in a voice memo:

Dammit. I experienced a thought plus it went out. It actually was honestly most likely really brilliant.